Rihanna, Chris Brown, Karrueche Tran Saga -- Why Karrueche Should've Listened and Rihanna's a Blatant Hypocrite

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Most of us have heard by now that Chris Brown was seen hooking up with Rihanna in a club and leaving her hotel room. Not long after, news broke that Chris broke up with his girlfriend, Karrueche Tran. He said it's because he didn’t want to hurt her anymore over his friendship with Rihanna.

No one believes that Rihanna and Chris are just friends. Who knows whether they will fully get back together? Chris might want to enjoy his freedom now that he has it. He also put out a video saying he can’t decide who he loves more – Rihanna or Karrueche. What I deduced from what he was saying is that one woman is his past while the other is his present. 

Let's talk about Karrueche. Soon after the video starting making the rounds on the internet, she tweeted, “"WTF is going on? All I'm saying is, you don't mess with people's genuine feelings. You just don't!" She later wrote, “Life moves on, so let's all [do the same]."

There are two points I want to make about what she wrote. First, how she can ask what’s going on and act surprised Chris messed with her feelings? What’s happened between Rihanna and he has been going on for awhile. Everyone warned her. I know she saw the messages because we hear how she responded to them. How can she cry foul at this point when she let the shenanigans continue?

This bring me to the topic of “haters.” Urban Dictionary has several definitions of the word. Essentially, it’s being mad at another person's success or disliking someone without merit. Such is not the case here. People who told Karrueche to get out were not hating on her because they were jealous of Chris and she. We were all afraid for her and worried about how he treated her, i.e. there was merit.
 

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If people are strongly advising and begging you to leave a man, ask yourself whether they’re really haters or just…well…right about him. When all of your friends, family, and the rest of the world is screaming at you to get out, trust they’re seeing things you aren’t. A common mistake people make is thinking, “I’m in the relationship. Not you. You have no idea what it's really like." This isn’t true. Those on the outside are most objective and aren’t wearing love goggles.

The second quick point is that I want Karrueche to stop talking about Chris. This whole thing is dead, dead, dead. He can put out as many videos as he likes about his so-called confusion. One thing is for sure and that is he doesn’t want to marry her – at least for now. Karrueche should keep the positivity and “life moves on” attitude. Men find this very attractive and will flock to her in droves. Someday, she will thank Chris for dumping her.

As for Rihanna, I'm convinced she's sick. Whenever I think, “how could she do this?” I remind myself that she’s a victim of domestic violence and not to have high expectations. She even admitted during her Diane Sawyer interview that many women go back to abusive boyfriends so she knew this was coming (so long as Chris wanted it).

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What irks me about her, though, is how she came out on Diane Sawyer saying, "The more in love we became, the more dangerous we became for each other. When I realize that my selfish decision for love could result into some young girl getting killed I cannot be easy with that part. I couldn't be held responsible for (not) telling them about Chris, even if Chris never hit me again. Who's to say that their boyfriend won't?" She even told women to not make a decision based on love. She said "F" love.

Where's that responsible woman now? She's absent. She's checked out and doing the exact opposite of what she advised women. It's both hypocritical (for obvious reasons) and convenient. She sure got a lot of press from the incident when she had no intention of representing domestic violence victims in the slightest. 

She doesn't want to act as a role model for women? Fine. No one asked her to. But, she put it on herself for people to have the expectation she'd be a voice for abused women. As soon as it didn't fit her agenda, though, she bailed.

Rihanna should've gone on the Diane Sawyer interview and simply just said, "I want to tell my side of the story." Forget her want to valiantly help domestic abuse victims. Using that as her platform is disgustingly reprehensible. She might not know better than to return to her abuser. But, I believe she knew better than to pander to victims. 

I write this blog and have to live according to the advice I give. When I tell women "don't pursue men," believe I'm not doing it either. When I tell women to value themselves and hold out for good people in their lives, know I make the same decisions. 

If I ever want to do something contrary to what I write here, I don't eschew my principles because it fits my motive. Rihanna always says she doesn't care what people think. I do. It doesn't make me better. It just means I have the courage to let people hold me accountable for my behavior. 

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!

Vanessa

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