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I
read an article today featuring Lauren Conrad who said something I
found interesting. She admitted to have done quite a bit of dating over
the past year – and good for her because she landed William Tell. Even
though she put herself out there, she certainly wasn’t letting just
anyone smooch her. In fact, she emphatically said her cardinal rule is
to "never kiss anyone on the first date."
I couldn’t agree more. As a dating coach, I advise clients to
never let a man kiss them on the first date. This doesn’t mean they can
initiate either. I also tell them to meet up for a quick drink and go
to dinner on the next date that he plans. Because they only stay for about an
hour on that first date, there’s no need to kiss the man. I don’t want a woman giving a man
the impression she’ll kiss just anyone who buys her a drink and chats
with her for an hour.
The
advice might sound old-fashioned by today’s standards and I’d be
inclined to agree. Yet, I was taught that from the very first time you
meet a man that you are setting the stage for marriage. Little things
like not kissing are part of that classy first impression
you want to make. Even if you don’t want to marry, play it safe so
you don’t ruin the option.
Some
of you are probably thinking “Is Vanessa serious? Does she honestly
think a kiss can ruin a relationship’s chance of getting off the
ground?” Yes and no. If you kiss a man on the first date, I’m not saying
he won’t call again. Yet, he might treat you pretty casually from there
on out. When a man doesn’t treat you as his “It Girl,” he tends to
disappear.
Personally,
I get a creepy vibe from a man who wants to touch and kiss me too much
on a first date. The whole first impression thing cuts both ways. If I
sense he’s so willing to put his hands on anyone, it doesn’t make me
want to have a second date. The inner 3rd grader comes out in me and I wonder whether he has cooties.
Don’t
worry either that a man won’t contact you for a second date just
because you don’t kiss him on the first. If he’s worth his salt, he’ll
completely understand. You might even be surprised to find out that on
later dates with you he’ll recount how much he loved it you wouldn’t
kiss him on the first date.
Until next time…
Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa
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