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This
is an interesting story that I wanted to discuss. It isn’t about
women’s relationships with men. Yet, it concerns how a woman will end
her friendship with another woman because she doesn’t like the decisions
her friend has made when it comes to men. Make sense?
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For
my example, I will use Ashley Benson and Selena Gomez. I read today
that Ashley is now dating James Franco, her co-star from Spring
Breakers. Before James, though, she dated Justin Bieber’s pal Ryan Good.
As such, she befriended Selena. Now, Emma Roberts turned down the role
and when Ashley found out about it, she begged Selena to get her in
front of the producers for the part.
Once
the shoot was over, Ashley told Ryan they should slow down and booked a flight to New York City to attend James’ art gallery showing.
This is a 180 for Ashley who generally acted possessive and insecure
with Ryan to all of the sudden not having any time for him. Selena
is hurt and feels used. She supposedly only helped Ashley with the role
because she thought they were all friends. Now, Selena thinks Ashley
only wanted to cozy up to James.
Since
I think Selena is one of the sweetest and most pulled together young
women in Hollywood, it's unfortunate her feelings were hurt. I’m going to
do something I don’t often do, though, and that's give someone the benefit of
the doubt. I believe Ashley really did like Selena and that she was also
into Ryan. However, I do acknowledge Ashley probably met James and
flipped her lid for him.
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The reason I say this is because Ashley was insecure about her relationship
with Ryan. In case you can’t see why I’m making this leap, my point is
that I think Ashley had good intentions with Ryan. From Ashley’s
perspective, I’m willing to guess she felt Selena was her friend, too.
Ashley
isn’t totally off the hook, though. From the way the article read, it
didn’t sound as if she had a heart-to-heart with Selena and said, “I appreciate everything you’ve done for me. But, my feelings for
Ryan changed. I can’t help it but I’m falling for James.
Can we still be friends?” That would’ve probably gone a long way. Even
if Ashley were afraid to have this talk with Selena, she
should’ve found the courage to step up to the plate.
For
Selena, though, all I can say is that it isn’t always the easiest to
find good girlfriends. My litmus test is whether I can be sure they’ll
be there for me when the chips are down. Maybe as far as Ashley goes,
Selena knows that this answer is “No.” If not, Selena could reconsider
letting her off the hook. I hope they make up.
If
we all ended friendships because of foolish mistakes our friends make in romance, it’d be hard to keep anything going for a
significant amount of time. Lifelong friendships require work. Think
long and hard before cleaning house. Be certain the person is no good
before making such a big decision that you might not be able to undo.
Until next time…
Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa
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