Nicole Richie Candid about Childhood -- Why She's a Better Mom Because of It!

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Nicole Richie has really done well for herself over the last few years. She went from being featured in the press because everyone was worried about whether she was anorexic to a model wife and mother. Additionally, she's maintained her own interests. Her long-awaited boho chic Nicole Richie for Macy's Impulse clothing is finally here and she is featured in the September issue of DuJour magazine. Talk about having it all!

I wanted to highlight her in this post is because of what she said in her interview. About her childhood, Nicole confided that she toured a lot with her adoptive parents, singer Lionel Richie and his ex-wife Brenda. She remembers being taken out of school and having tutors which is atypical of the children who attend the same school every day. Nicole said by the time her dad went onstage that she was fast asleep. Because of this, Nicole raises her children differently. It sounds as if Nicole doesn't want to disrupt their routine.

A woman who grows up in a less than idyllic environment frequently worries about whether she'll make a good wife and mother. As I've told my readers before, the fear is that because she wasn't given the tools needed to master these relationships that she won't be successful in her own family. In other words, will what she experienced as a child be repeated?

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The first thing Nicole did correctly was find a man who is crazy about her and wanted to raise their children in a similar fashion. This isn't to say that a woman who wants to have a child can't do it alone. I'm only saying that if she wants one, there will be less conflict if values aligned. Her husband, Joel Madden, is always complimentary of her which undoubtedly makes it easier for her as a mother.

Another point to identify that contributes to being a great mother is that she reflected on what she felt was missing from her childhood. Some people might think that it couldn't have been that hard on her given she's Lionel's daughter. Yet, Nicole's story is no different than many adults who moved a lot as youngsters. It's harder to develop permanent roots and a discernible routine when this happens.

Nicole didn't condemn anyone for not doing right by her, only that she's using an approach that fits her familial goals. I'm sure she acknowledges that her parents wanted her on the road with them and did the best they could. Her responses are matter-of-fact and as if she'd given a lot of thought about what she intended to do differently. For the most part, we hope we'll do better than our parents. I think it's great Nicole wants her children to have stability. It can't hurt.

What I'm trying to convey is have patience with yourself when it comes to worrying about the type of mother you'll be. If you have a good man by your side, you can always run decisions past him for feedback so you won't feel alone in your decision-making. Don't stress and know that, like Nicole, so long as your heart is in the right place, the answers will come to you. 

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa

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