Does Ryan Reynolds Love Blake Lively More Than He Did Scarlett Johansson? Why Dollars Aren't Proof Positive of a Man's Love

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Admittedly, I have a love/hate relationship with this article. I knew it was a matter of time before the tabloids started to compare Blake Lively to Scarlett Johansson relative to the size of the wedding ring Ryan Reynolds bought. I anticipate this will increase as the details about their wedding are released.

On one hand, I love the article because it gives me an opportunity to discuss what can happen when a woman compares her relationship with a man to his ex. On the other, I hate it because it encourages women to potentially make unhealthy comparisons. What I ultimately concluded, though, is that we probably do this anyway. The tabloids are addressing what's already occurring.

Anyway, on to my main point. The crux of the article about Blake and Scarlett involved the dollar amount of their rings. Blake's is priced around $2 million whereas Scarlett's came in at $100 - 300,000. Obviously, the price disparity is vast.

There are three ways to look at this. First, maybe Ryan didn't have as much money when he proposed to Scarlett as he does now. Second, he loves Blake more which is why he spent more on her ring. Then again, he's better off now than when he proposed to Scarlett in May 2008. Finally, it's possible he went out of pocket more for Scarlett so (gasp) he actually loved her more than Blake.

Isn't the above analysis comical? It isn't that the points are invalid as much as they are inconclusive. We can't always put a price on how much a man loves you versus an ex.

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Now, I'm not saying the price of the ring is inconsequential. In my mind, the more a man goes out of pocket on the ring the better. If he has it, I prefer that he spend it. No skimping or being cheap. This is a ring you will wear everyday of your married lives and potentially pass down to your daughter, daughter-in-law, granddaughter, etc.. It's an heirloom. If he objects to the price of wedding centerpieces and flowers, fine. But, the ring is another matter. 

With that said, a woman must be careful when comparing anything to how a man was with his ex versus how he is with her. For the most part, what's important is how crazy he is about her. My favorite thing to hear is "his family and friends say they've never seen him so crazy about a woman." That tells me he's head over heels. Whenever a man's known for this, that counts more than whatever he did with his ex.

All in all, be careful when drawing conclusions with a man based on dollars. It's not always proof positive of how he feels. Lastly, if a woman skews something like this the wrong way, she might end up having hurt feelings that she shouldn't. Don't make life harder on yourself than necessary.

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa 

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