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An
element of dating I frequently discuss concerns who spoke to who first in a relationship. Because I believe in the old-fashioned approach,
I like it best when the man pursues the woman and makes the first move.
I need to know he had to have me.
I’ll
never forget the one time I kept turning down a man for dates. We were
out one night and he offered to make sure I got to my car safely. I was
walking ahead of him a bit and all of the sudden he grabbed my hand,
spun me around, and kissed me. After he did so, he said, “I wanted to do
that for months. Now will you go out with me?” Needless to say, I
answered, “Yes.”
Following
this, when people asked how we finally got together, he told that story
over and over…and over…to anyone who would listen. He was so proud he pulled off that move and it worked in his favor. I let him tell it
because I knew he felt like a Viking.
Which
is why when I read the story about how Brittney Spears made the first
move on fiance Jason Trawick, I thought, “oh, that’s too bad.” In their joint
interview with ELLE magazine, Jason said, “It was kind of one of those
things where she moved, like, turned around, so we were face-to-face
then…” At this point, Britney interjected, “Okay, that’s enough
information, sweetie. It was sweet, just say that.”
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This
article is of interest for two reasons. First, notice how quickly
Britney moved to hush him? Almost as if she didn’t want the world to
know that she made the first move. She didn’t like being cast as the
aggressor.
I find this is the case with most women. They’ll tell me, “Oh, it really doesn’t matter who pursues who. Who cares about playing hard-to-get.” In the next breath, though, they reassure me their boyfriend or husband chased them and did all of the work. On some level, it’s as if women know the man should be the aggressor, not the other way around.
I find this is the case with most women. They’ll tell me, “Oh, it really doesn’t matter who pursues who. Who cares about playing hard-to-get.” In the next breath, though, they reassure me their boyfriend or husband chased them and did all of the work. On some level, it’s as if women know the man should be the aggressor, not the other way around.
The
second reason I wanted to discuss this article is because it really is
true that a man will always remember how you first got together – and
will let it be known if you pursued him. This isn’t good. You want him
to reminisce about having to have you. You want that to stick in his
mind’s eye.
True,
Britney didn’t make out too badly. After all, Jason and she are
engaged. He could’ve proposed anyway because he really did want her. Yet, there's no set wedding date. She tried saying it’s because she’s too busy, but an insider
claims she’s dragging her feet because Jason feels more like her mentor
than a husband. This makes me wonder if he ever would’ve made the first
move had she not.
Tell me what you think! Should a woman make the first move? Will Britney and Jason walk down the aisle?
Until next time…
Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa
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