Ryan Lochte Doesn't Want Women to Pursue Him - Why a Woman Shouldn't Call or Text a Man First!

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Ryan Lochte was on the Today Show yesterday and participated in a panel with a few other men. The topic of discussion: Dating. You can watch the video here, but the net of it is women posed questions to the male panel members and asked their opinions. 

The two questions Ryan answered which stood out are as follows:

Question 1: I've been friends with a man for a long time. How do I become more? Do I give him a hint or wait for him to ask me?

Ryan: I was always brought up and told the guy has to make the first move. I say let him approach her.

Question 2: Why can't a man pick up the phone anymore...it's all about texting. Is this a reflection of if he's actually interested?

Ryan: I prefer texting. If I get a call, I'll hit decline and text back, "hey what's up?"

Some people who commented found Ryan's advice ridiculous. Further, they thought it was rude of him to decline a woman's call and text her back instead. Be that as it may, it's obvious he doesn't want to talk. You can even tell from his impatient response. It's not like he texted, "Hi beautiful, I'm headed to practice and can't talk." He's curt and saying, "get to the point." Most women would feel humiliated. I certainly would.

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All in all, it's his way of saying he doesn't want a woman to pursue him. This isn't anything different than that which every old-fashioned bit of dating advice teaches women which is to let the man do the work. One woman who advocates letting men approach and call you is Mimi Tanner. She said the man who wants you will find a way and that women have a tendency to kill relationships because they don't believe this. 

I rarely do posts from a man's perspective. The reason I did so here is because when a man says women shouldn't pursue men, it seems to carry more weight. It ceases being old-fashioned advice. A man is telling women what's a turn off. For some reason, women will pay more attention to this advice when it comes from a man than a mother, girlfriend, or any other woman. 

So, why would I ever lift a finger and risk ruining a man's interest in me. I believe Mimi's advice and doing anything contrary is self-sabotage. Yes, it's awful when the man you want doesn't pursue you. But, you approaching him won't make him like you. In sum, you heard it from Ryan that he'll work to get a girl who he likes.

Tell me what you think! What are your thoughts on what Ryan said?

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!

Vanessa

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