It's true that it isn't written anywhere. Despite it not being set in stone, though, women not being able to act like men when it comes to sex is relatively indoctrinated into our psyches -- for both sexes alike. Toward that end, like I said about Kristen, when a woman plays, she pays. It never seems to happen in a vacuum like it can for men.
There's no benefit to being caught, either. Once she is, she'll have to listen to people's commentary, defend herself if so inclined, and carry the stigma for a long while. My thinking is who has time for this? Personally, I'd rather people pay attention to me because my work brings them value. I encourage women to set higher standards for themselves. Be known success and not indiscretion.
This might be too deep, but if you had to watch your funeral, how would you want your eulogy to sound? Right now, I'd like to think people would say, "Vanessa was opinionated, sometimes a jerk. But, her hope was that women be fully self-actualized and in happy relationships with people who love them."
See, my mission is to have people read my work and be inspired. I don't want press for fooling around in a bathroom with cameras nearby so I can then defend whether it was more than a kiss. If people pay attention to me, I want it for help I can give them. I want to do something productive with the limelight.
For those inclined to retort, "Well-behaved women rarely make history." Yeah, I've heard that one, too. I tend to reserve statements like that for the first woman who dared enter a board room and play in a man's world or Rosa Parks refusing inferior treatment. Not for the woman who wants to get it on in a bathroom at a friend's house -- if it happened!
Brandi...if this is true...do better. Do something worthwhile with the limelight.
Tell me what you think! How should a woman balance living for the moment versus the long run?
Until next time...
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