Brandi Glanville Sex in Bathroom Scandal -- Living for the Moment Versus the Long Run

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The latest scandal to rock The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills is whether Brandi Glanville had sex in the bathroom at Kyle Richards' party. Supposedly they have her on tape, yet Brandi said she was only kissing. Whether it happened isn't what I want to address. What caught my attention was Dana Wilkey's reaction. To sum it up, Dana said that Brandi was "a slut, obviously."

I've noticed that one aspect of life with which women wrestle is living for the moment versus the long run. With respect to Brandi, she definitely strikes me as the former. This was evident with her trip to Vegas and impromptu marriage to Darin Harvey. Not only that, she was pretty open about her fling with Gerard Butler. This makes it harder for people to believe her when she says she was only smooching in a bathroom and not doing the deed.

Someone left a comment on my Kristen Stewart Battle of the Sexes post that I found pretty interesting. She asked, "...[W]here is it said that a woman can't get what she wants and be done with it--without fear of prosecution?" I thought this was a great question under not only prosecution, but also persecution.

It's true that it isn't written anywhere. Despite it not being set in stone, though, women not being able to act like men when it comes to sex is relatively indoctrinated into our psyches -- for both sexes alike. Toward that end, like I said about Kristen, when a woman plays, she pays. It never seems to happen in a vacuum like it can for men.

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If a woman can't "keep it in her pants," then it might behoove her to do it privately. It's not bad that Brandi wanted to have sex. What people object to is the manner in which she thumbed her nose at what is considered acceptable conduct in a social setting. A woman having sex in a place where they know there's a high likelihood of being caught is doing it for the thrill. That's what people don't appreciate.

There's no benefit to being caught, either. Once she is, she'll have to listen to people's commentary, defend herself if so inclined, and carry the stigma for a long while. My thinking is who has time for this? Personally, I'd rather people pay attention to me because my work brings them value. I encourage women to set higher standards for themselves. Be known success and not indiscretion.

This might be too deep, but if you had to watch your funeral, how would you want your eulogy to sound? Right now, I'd like to think people would say, "Vanessa was opinionated, sometimes a jerk. But, her hope was that women be fully self-actualized and in happy relationships with people who love them." 

See, my mission is to have people read my work and be inspired. I don't want press for fooling around in a bathroom with cameras nearby so I can then defend whether it was more than a kiss. If people pay attention to me, I want it for help I can give them. I want to do something productive with the limelight.

For those inclined to retort, "Well-behaved women rarely make history." Yeah, I've heard that one, too. I tend to reserve statements like that for the first woman who dared enter a board room and play in a man's world or Rosa Parks refusing inferior treatment. Not for the woman who wants to get it on in a bathroom at a friend's house -- if it happened!

Brandi...if this is true...do better. Do something worthwhile with the limelight.

Tell me what you think! How should a woman balance living for the moment versus the long run?

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa

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