Patti Stanger Has a New Boyfriend! Are the Conversations Too Intense, Too Soon?

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As a dating coach, my suggestions for clients wouldn't have much meaning if I hadn't taken the advice I was given. From the makeover tips I've received to how to act on dates, I heeded everything taught to me. I figured that what I'd done thus far hadn't worked. Why not try something new?

This is especially true about how to meet men. I've tried online dating, speed dating, and singles dances. Like most women, though, I wouldn't have done this without outside encouragement. My sources of positive reinforcement were Ellen and Sherrie. They too pounded the pavement at singles events when trying to meet their Mr. Right. In other words, they never asked me to do anything they hadn't done themselves.

And The Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger, is no different. Patti's a dating coach and equally well-known for encouraging her clients to get out there and mingle. Turns out, she indeed practices what she preaches. At her 51st birthday party last Friday, she introduced new beau of three months, David Krausse, 42. Patti met David on an online dating site and told Us Weekly the ex-baseball player turned mortgage broker is a "keeper."

The good news is that he sounds like he's just as crazy about Patti. He said that he loves a million things about her, she's beautiful, and has a heart of gold.  Things are moving fast, too, given Patti admitted they're already discussing adoption. While three months into a relationship is typically too soon to discuss something so heavy, my guess is Patti's getting to the point rather quickly because she's over 50 and wants a child.

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What stood out the most to me though is how they handle their relationship. When asked about the secret to their happiness so far, Patti said, "We communicate. If something's wrong, we talk about it!" Maybe it's The Rules in me, but I can't understand what would be so "wrong" that would necessitate such communication this early into the game. 

Women who are strictly following The Rules know that conversations in the beginning should not be deep. They should be about movies, sports, politics -- basically anything but your relationship. The logic is that you don't even have a relationship to discuss until after a man's pursued you for a few months. 

Another obvious reason is that you don't want the relationship to become too intense, too soon. You'll have the rest of your lives (hopefully) to have in depth conversations. In the beginning, you should be his break from the world. It's what Ellen and Sherrie call being "easy to be with."

It's interesting because a lot of Patti's fans also love The Rules and vice versa. Similar to The Rules, Patti advocates that women act mysteriously, be ladylike, and let boy chase girl. She's also vocal about her dating method in the same sense The Rules authors and dating coaches are. 

But, in this instance, there's a disconnect. The Rules would never prematurely emphasize open communication about a relationship at three months. In fact, the only deep discussion that could or should occur around this time is how badly he wants you to say "yes" to being his girlfriend.

Take the poll or tell me what you think! Is Patti's relationship too intense too soon?

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa

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