I glanced at him occasionally over the next half hour and noticed he had moved on to two other brunettes during this time. I stand about 5'-11" in heels. I was one of the tallest women there. He didn't even give me a second glance. There was no way around it. He didn't like blondes.
The Rules helped me in this situation in two ways. First, I didn't waste my time planting myself within eyesight because that's not what an It Girl does. Ellen and Sherrie say walk around the room and let men catch up with you.
Second, I also didn't make the effort because I'm not a brunette. In other words, my efforts as a blonde wouldn't have mattered. I was not his type.
My Twitter followers know that yesterday I posted a link to an article that said Russell Brand is supposedly dating a Katy Perry look alike. On a side note, I don't see the resemblance. Anyway, I realized that a topic I've yet to cover in my blog is how men generally have a type.
For example, Leonardo DiCaprio has a type. He went from Gisele Bundchen, to Bar Refaeli, to Erin Heatherton. Each of them is a model, all between 5'-9" and 5'-11," and all have light hair with fair complexions. Ryan Reynolds married Scarlett Johansson and is now serious with Blake Lively. While not exactly the same, he didn't exactly go from a blonde to a brunette. Matthew McConaughey dated Penelope Cruz and then married Camila Alves -- again, very similar.
Most women already know a man has a type. I'm not offering any ground-breaking revelation on this one. I only bring it up because all too often a woman will turn herself inside out trying to get a man to notice her. She might even make a drastic change like dying her hair with the hope he'll look her way.
I can't say this never works. But, it's up to the woman to decide whether it's worth it. It won't be in her best interest to make changes only to feel uncomfortable with herself. Personally, I couldn't dye my hair brown in order to get the cute guy at the singles event. I simply don't feel confident as a brunette. My stylist can attest to the fact that whenever I dye my hair darker I become depressed. That emotion will show through with men and I'll seem less myself.
So, what if he doesn't approach you? Don't take it personally. Don't think you don't look great. The man at the party who only liked brunettes neither knew me nor made me indirectly feel less attractive. He can't help what his eyes like and it certainly isn't intentional.
Some women will also call a man "gay" because he's not interested in her. Don't project a false truth onto a man to make yourself feel better. It's not fair. As hard as it is to admit it, not every man will want you.
All in all, if you aren't his type, don't bother trying. Changing is risky because he might still not like you. Cut your losses and move on. Rest assured, you are another man's type. He'll be thrilled to find you exactly the way you are.
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