Friday, October 23, 2015

Jennifer Lawrence Takes Responsibility for Failing to Negotiate -- How Does This Relate to a Bad Man?

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We all love Jennifer Lawrence, right? I mean -- who else taught us to laugh at ourselves when we trip on our way to receive our Oscar? This is an important life lesson to learn!

What I liked most about Jennifer's views on gender pay inequality in her recently penned essay, "Why Do I Make Less Than My Male Co-Stars?" is the manner in which she took responsibility. Appearing in the Oct. 13 edition of Lenny, Lena Dunham's feminist newsletter, Jennifer writes:

When the Sony hack happened and I found out how much less I was being paid than the lucky people with d*cks, I didn't get mad at Sony. I got mad at myself. I failed as a negotiator because I gave up early. I didn't want to keep fighting over millions of dollars that, frankly, due to two franchises, I don't need," she explains.

Absolutely. Loved. This. 

Were Jennifer to have been mad at Sony, she would have missed the role she played in not negotiating better. Sony was under no obligation to "do right" by Jennifer and pay her more simply because her male counterparts were. She can't count on that. The reality is that no one looks out for you like you look out for you. 

And neither can a woman when it comes to a man. 

This is not to sound embittered in the slightest. I write this blog because Platinum Girls love men and the joy they can bring to our lives. I want my readers to have happy and healthy relationships and stay out of the sick world of dysfunction.

With that said, a single woman will invariably meet a bad egg along the broken road to her Mr. Handsome. It's unavoidable and makes her stronger. But that doesn't mean she should stay and accept being treated badly.

A lot of women complain about how their boyfriends or husbands treat them. I'm not talking about the usual, "Can you believe he didn't take out the trash?" nonsense. I mean the man who blows you off or is physically and emotionally abusive -- essentially the type who just hurts you. 

This latter group of men aren't nice enough to leave because they know that they have little victims wrapped around their collective fingers. You know him when you see him because he makes you feel badly more than he makes you feel good. This is why it's up to the woman to take a stand.

The "I can't be alone" woman will succumb to loneliness and end up with a bad egg of a man because she's more terrified of a Friday alone. That's silly. What's worse is that a not-so-nice man can spot her from a mile away. 

The negative experiences that you can have with a man of this sort will be much worse than your phone not lighting up with his text. These toxic relationships can be hell in the hallway that go on for years, all the while wreaking havoc on your self-esteem.

Like Jennifer, it's up to women to negotiate better relationships for themselves -- not just with men, but across the board. If you aren't being treated well, ask yourself whether it's because you're failing to ask for better.

In this life, there is no falling asleep at the wheel. It's either a good man or no man. If it's no man, you work on yourself until the good man comes along.

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!

Vanessa

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Wednesday, October 21, 2015

Kardashian Women Take the Fall for Ruining Lamar Odom -- Is This Fair?

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I've been thinking quite a bit about Lamar Odom and how the Kardashians are taking the fall for it. This article in particular caught my eye.

Looper.com posted about the men the Kardashian women have ruined. Worth mentioning was Kris Humphries, Scott Disick, Ray J, O.J. Simpson, Rob Kardashian, and, of course, Lamar Odom. Before I discuss Lamar, I'm going to say a few words about the rest of them.

Kris Humphries: Leech

Scott Disick: Cheater and Alcoholic

Rob Kardashian: Victim (think Rita Ora) and Food Addict

Ray J: Opportunist

O.J. Simpson: Umm...really?

If you read the article I am referencing, even the author admits some of it is a stretch. Still, this is not the first time I've heard about how Lamar's downfall is because of the "Kardashian Witches."

Of the Kardashians, Khloe generally ranks as the favorite -- that's true for me, too. I admit that I was pretty hard on her when she was wrapped up with that idiot French Montana. But she was a good wife to Lamar. 

She moved all over the country to support him when he played professionally and doted on him. Even after leaving him, she would call him to say she was proud when he was on a good path.

What did she receive in return? A husband who did drugs and bragged that he cheated on her in a freestyle video. She pretty much left after that. 

But that's what her loyalty to him got her. And when she begged for a divorce, he ignored her calls. Now, in his darkest hour, she's there.

Yet Khloe's life wasn't ruined post-Lamar. Khloe's doing just fine. Khloe hit the gym for the most part and worked on herself. 
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So why are we all babying Lamar? Everyone wants to wax poetic about how he's a good guy who just took a bad turn because of the Kardashian women.

Really? I've been writing this blog for five years. Not once has he ever impressed me. He hasn't been a decent fella. I'm certainly not saying he can't be if he comes out of his drug addled state. But from what history has shown, he's not someone I consider on the up and up. 

Someone else (I can't remember, sorry) said that it was such bad form for the Kardashians to have distanced themselves from Lamar once his addictions made them start to look poorly. 

I disagree. Anyone can distance themselves from an addict no matter who they are. But let's just say they weren't so nice for doing that and that they could've taken better care of him. It doesn't give Lamar an excuse to use.

Don't mistake me, I am certainly not blind to the ways of the Kardashian empire. I've come down just as hard on them as anyone. I've taken heat for being so judgmental. On this I stand firm, though. An addict's issues are up to the addict to fix.

For the everyday woman who is probably reading my blog, the moral of the story is that you are not responsible for anyone in your life who uses -- no matter what they might like you to believe. In the same vein, it's also no one else's fault if you're using. 

We all have our demons. Those who step up to the plate and deal with them are the those who make it out alive.

Any 12-Step Program teaches people that it is your responsibility to look at your role in every situation. Even if someone picks up your keys and moves them -- what was your role? Instead of blaming the Kardashians on this one, we should be asking the same thing of Lamar.

Lamar, what was your role in all of this?

Until next time...

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Vanessa

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Tuesday, May 19, 2015

Miguel Talks Why He Hasn't Married Nazanin Mandi -- Why She Needs to Stop Being a Doormat!

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There's nothing worse than seeing a woman utterly waste her time on a man -- especially when it's for years!

Bossip.com reported, (1) "Even though they’ve been together over a decade, Miguel explains why he has yet to even propose to his model girlfriend, Nazanin Mandi. He recently sat down with Hot 97 and said, 'He “doesn’t feel the pressure” to get married and was not raised to “throw things around” like that.

'You gotta know who you are as a person, first of all. And I think I’ve come so far as a man and I’m just starting to feel solid, where I feel I can hold this down legitimately. I think people now like throw things around like marriage. I just wasn’t raised like that. I don’t feel the pressure because I know that when I commit, I can really commit. Now it’s just thrown around because it’s so easy to break up. I’m not that kind of person. I’m just not…I wouldn’t do that to her and I wasn’t raised like that. I just don’t feel like that is honorable.'

He also added that he’s “wild at heart” and Nazanin’s “learned to adjust.” 'Like I really am wild hearted, like I’m wild at heart. I follow my instincts. And that’s what this album is about. And I think she’s learned that and she’s had to adjust, had to learn to embrace…and I love her for that.' And in case you were wondering if that means that he’s cheated on her, this was his response. 'I just know I’m wild at heart man.'”

I love Miguel's whole "You gotta know who you are as a person." He's just so...evolved and self-actualized (eye roll). Basically, he's saying that he won't commit, yet won't correct the idea that he's cheated on her. 

So, not raised to throw things around like marriage. But...what? Cheating is just fine. Sorry, I suppose I'm missing the point where he's so honorable.

Either way, it's Nazanin who should leave. Normally, I would say that a woman should have the whole, "Where is this going?" talk and if there's no timeline for marriage to be on her way.

In this instance, though, I think it's too far gone. If Miguel cheated, this one is done and done, especially after a decade and no ring. Not to mention, he goes on the air and publicly lets the world know that she's pretty much his doormat. 

A man who says that he loves you for "embracing and adjusting to who he is" is full of it. He doesn't love you. He loves what you put up with because he has the best of both worlds -- someone steady and the option to not take you seriously.

Nazanin needs to leave. Yesterday.

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa

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Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Sofia Vergara Talks Not Being Interested in Joe Manganiello at First -- Why This Worked in Her Favor!

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Love the stories where the man pursued the woman! This one ended in an engagement -- and most likely marriage!

People.com reported, "Now they are one of the most talked about – not to mention, gorgeous – couples in Hollywood. But Sofia Vergara wasn't sold about going out with Joe Manganiello right away.

The Hot Pursuit actress, 42, said that it took a plane ride for the Magic Mike XXL actor, 38, just to get a first date with her. 'I'm so lucky I couldn't believe it. At the beginning I didn't want to go out with him,' the Modern Family actress told Ellen DeGeneres on Friday during a visit to her show to promote her new comedy.


'I just finished a relationship … he seemed like a lot of work because [he's] so handsome and younger than me and so sexy and best bachelor or whatever he was,' she explained. 'And I'm like, "Ugh." Just too much!'


But after a hop, skip and a flight to Louisiana, PEOPLE's Hottest Bachelor convinced her otherwise. '
He flew to New Orleans and forced me on a date. And then ... I'm like, "He's a great guy, super fun, super normal and … we click." It's super easy to hang out with him.'

The engaged couple first met briefly in May 2012 at the MTV Movie Awards and again at the White House Correspondents' Dinner two years later. But by December 2014, Manganiello had popped the question in Hawaii and are now in the process of moving in together. '
She's got the curves, she's got a beautiful face, beautiful hair, just gorgeous. Naturally beautiful. She's feisty!' the actor told PEOPLE in August."

The reason I like this one so much is because of how on the fence Sofia initially was about dating Joe. I remember that she started dating him pretty quickly after splitting with awful Nick Loeb. 

Even then, I thought to myself that Joe must have moved fast to take advantage of the fact that she was single. He recognized that she's a catch and didn't let the opportunity slip through his fingers.

Notice, too, that Joe did all of the work to prove to Sofia that he was worth her time. He flew to Louisiana to convince her to go out on a date with him while she was filming and essentially pursued her. 

Because the beginning started off with Joe taking the lead, it didn't come as much of a surprise that he proposed within less than a year of dating. Hey, when a man has to have you -- he makes it known.

This is why I always say that relationships need not be a struggle. You know when a man is into you because it's so easy. The reason why is because he does all of the work all the while you are courted -- as it should be!

Now, I've commented quite a bit on how Sofia is a bit too heart on her sleeve. I still think she could dial it back a bit. 

For what it's worth, though, it's clear that Joe unquestionably knew she is the woman he had to have. I have no doubt they'll make it down the aisle!

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa

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Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Kylie Jenner Pushing Tyga to Come Clean about Blac Chyna -- Why a Man's Rejection Is Not Closure!

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I've rolled my eyes at this one long enough. Today, I feel compelled to comment.

HollywoodLife.com reported, "Kylie Jenner, 17, told Tyga that it’s time for him to man up and accept that he was wrong to send Blac Chyna text messages behind her back. Kylie has had enough of Tyga, 25, and his excuses. She wants him to finally own up to his mistakes — especially his secret text messaging relationship with his ex, Blac Chyna, 26.

Apparently, after Tyga tried explaining to Kylie that he had been texting Blac to keep her 'happy,' his young girlfriend was not having any of it. 'Kylie didn’t buy it! She told Tyga, "You could have been nice to her without making it seem like you wanted to sleep with her. And why don’t you be a man and stop using your son as an excuse. Grow a pair. I thought you were over the ratchet ones. If you still like her just tell me, I can take it.'”

Tyga did not take Kylie’s angry rant very well and hang up on her! The heated conversation would have never happened if Kylie hadn’t taken the advice her father gave her. In fact, it was Bruce Jenner who told Kylie to hear Tyga out before making any rash decisions about their relationship. 'Kylie‘s bark is stronger than her bite. She loves Tyga and cares about him. After her father told her to listen to him, she Skyped with Tyga.'"

I've watched this saga unfold for months now. Will Tyga recognize their relationship or won't he? Will he propose to Kylie on her 18th birthday? Is he cheating on her with Blac Chyna? On and on with the drama. And now this.

Of course, Kylie's young and highly emotional relationships are practically a mainstay at her age. With that said, it's never too early to learn how to keep your dignity with a man.

What bugged me the most is how Kylie told Tyga "If you still like her, just tell me. I can take it." Apparently, Kylie needs to hear what she already knows which is that Tyga isn't exactly devoted to her. This is her closure.


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Let's talk about closure. Countless women feel that they need a man to reject them for proper closure. If he stops calling, they want to call him to make sure it's really over. If he seems interested in another woman, they want to hear him say it. 

The truth of the matter is that if it doesn't seem like a man wants you, he doesn't. When a man wants a woman, she knows. Yet, women are so hung up on taking advice from others about how important it is to "hear out" a man who isn't treating her well.

Why? Is it because that's what she wants to hear? She hopes the reality isn't what it seems so she wants to confront him. What a lousy way to end something that can wreak havoc on a woman's self-esteem. A man having to tell a woman he's not interested in her anymore should be something she avoids at any cost.

Now, I'm sure plenty of women will argue that they were finally able to move on from a man once he told her it was over. All I can say to this is that I don't agree with a man's rejection as a form of closure.

Here's the kicker, too. What makes any woman think a man will be honest? In the instance of Kylie and Tyga, she's put up with so much of his nonsense that he has zero incentive to tell her whether he's interested in another woman. He could tell her for days that he doesn't have feelings for Blac Chyna all the while texting her behind Kylie's back.

Further, don't expect a man to kiss your rear if you bust him texting and/or cheating with another woman. As seen with Kylie, Tyga hung up on her. This is why it's up to the woman to stay in control and not need a man's rejection in order for her to move on.

There's a difference between a man's words and his actions. Learn it. If the two are inconsistent, read the writing on the wall and move on.

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa

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