Sunday, July 27, 2014

Taylor Swift Gives Unrequited Love Advice to a Fan -- Does She Have a Point?

Taylor Swift
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I'm almost positive most will say, "Oh, Taylor Swift really shouldn't be giving love advice!" But let's hear her out.

HuffPo.com reported "Taylor Swift, 24, made one of her young fan's dreams come true.

Hannah, aka @sherbetswift, took to Instagram to ask her idol for some love advice earlier this week, and she responded with what might be the most sincere message ever written.

According to GossipCop, Hannah's original post read: There’s a guy Taylor, a guy who’s sweet and charming and makes me laugh. A guy who said sorry for eating in front of me after finding out I had to skip breakfast. A guy who grew up across the street from me. A guy who plays guitar like me. A guy who was my first best friend. A guy who I met when I was seven and he was nine. A guy who this one time, when we were younger, said that I was ‘like’ his girlfriend because I was a girl and his friend. I wish. A guy who I have the biggest crush in the whole wide world on, and he’ll never like me back. (He has a girlfriend who he adores. She’s pretty and has an amazing figure and is actually nice to me). A guy who will never like me back. @taylorswift can you give me some advice maybe. I love you. Hannah.

And here's Swift's response (get ready to tear up): Hannah. Eyes, eyes, eyes. Woah. You have the prettiest, widest, most child like eyes. (Composes herself) Okay. About this guy. I think we grow up thinking the only love that counts as true love is the kind that lasts forever or is fully realized. When you have a broken heart, the first thing a stranger will ask is ‘how long were you two together?’ As if your pain can be determined by how long you were with someone. Or if you were with them at all. I don’t think that’s how it works. I think unrequited love is just as valid as any other kind. It’s just as crushing and just as thrilling. No matter what happens in this situation, I want you to remember that what you are doing is selfless and beautiful and kind. You are loving someone purely because you love them, not because you think you’ll ever have your affections reciprocated. You are admiring something for its beauty, without needing to own it. Feel good about being the kind of person who loves selflessly. I think someday you’ll find someone who loves you in that exact same way.
Taylor Swift
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Hannah was clearly surprised Swift replied to her post, writing back to her, "You have no idea how much this means to me, thank you. You understand and that means so much. I feel like you’re the big sister I don’t have. Thank you, I really did need to hear that from you.”

First off, it was very sweet of Taylor to take the time to compose such a meaningful response to this young woman. It wouldn't be fair to criticize her because so many celebrities never communicate directly with their fans. If they do, it isn't heartfelt and thoughtful. I'm pleased Taylor answered and even validated her feelings.

I agree with Taylor's assessment, too, that unrequited love can hurt just as badly as "two-way street" love. You want a person who you can't have and that's painful.

If I could talk to my younger self, I would say that it's important to discern between relationship love and unrequited love. There's definitely a difference.

See, relationship love occurs when you are in a relationship. You're being asked out on dates, you spend time with one another, and you develop feelings for someone who genuinely wants you.

Unrequited love is vastly different from this. That's because unrequited love, well, it's in your head. You've fallen in love with someone with whom you cannot have a relationship. So you fantasize about the person. But it's not a real relationship.

This isn't to say there aren't feelings involved. I'm not even trying to diminish how someone feels. All I'm saying is that sometimes a person faced with unrequited love is helped once it "clicks" that "Hey, this isn't a relationship. You're in love with a fantasy."

I know the person who wrote Taylor is young and it's a part of life. I'm not taking away from her experience. But for anyone else who is going through the same ordeal, I hope this helps.

Until next time...

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Vanessa

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Khloe Kardashian Can't Understand Why People Care She's with French Montana -- Does She Care about Her Fans?

Khloe Kardashian, French Montana
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Sheesh Khloe. Get some class. 

DailyMailUK.com reported "Her new boyfriend French Montana has been accused of being a bad influence on her. But Khloe Kardashian, 30, had some harsh words for her critics. 'They’re not f**king him, so why should they care?' the she said during a radio interview on Power 105, alongside her rapper beau. 'Or maybe they are,' she said laughing, while still giving French a pointed look. 

The reality star said she has stopped caring about what people say. 'People are going to comment no matter what,' she told radio host Angie Martinez. 'If I dated the most clean cut perfect guy they’re going to comment.' French also said he is currently eschewing alcohol for Ramadan. Khloe admitted he is also taking a break from something else during the Islamic month of fasting. 'There’s no sex during Ramadan,' she said, adding jokingly, 'That’s so fun.' 

French certainly seems smitten with his new girlfriend, and he's not shy to show it. He posted a picture on Instagram last week of Khloe's rear end. While French can hardly be accused of being the classiest boyfriend, he is obviously very proud of his 30-year-old partner's shape. In the image only the Keeping Up With The Kardashians star's bottom can be seen as she lies on an unmade bed in a pair of brown hot pants. French captioned the image just '#asssscap.'"

Oh wow. Khloe is just so tough and so down. "They aren't f-ing him. Why should they care?" This little wannabe thug vibe she gives off is immature. I wonder if French taught her that.

Ok, let's extend that logic. Khloe, if no one cared about what you were doing, you wouldn't have the fame you have for doing nothing. Instead of spitting on your fans and everyone else who pays attention to you, try doing something thoughtful like, oh, I don't know, thanking them for their concern. 

Khloe also said that we would talk even if she were dating the most clean cut guy. She's right. We would. But I bet what was being said would be a whole lot different than "Wow, French is a loser who is using you."

Case in point, he takes a picture of her rear end and posts it to Facebook. Again, so classy. I mean, it just really drives the point home that he adores Khloe doesn't it? Nothing like posting a picture of woman's rear as a man's way of saying, "ILY."

And Khloe, maybe lay off on talking about how it's so upsetting you can't have sex for a month. You sound sex crazed, especially since French doesn't even sound all that upset about it.

Until next time...

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Vanessa

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Charlize Theron Sparks Engagement to Sean Penn Rumors -- Doesn't She Know People Are Watching?

Sean Penn, Charlize Theron
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People have asked me whether they're engaged. Even though they aren't, I do think the scenario is a bit strange.

People.com reported, "Are Charlize Theron and Sean Penn engaged? The shiny new sparkler on her ring finger seems to suggest the couple is ready to take the next step after dating for six months. Theron, 38, was photographed wearing it while walking through Los Angeles International Airport on Wednesday, the New York Daily News reports. 

Though the A Million Ways to Die in the West star has said she's in no rush to wed ("I never had the dream of the white dress," she told Vogue in May), Penn, 53, may have been the man to change her mind. "[Charlize] likes guys with more substance. She finds Sean very charming and he makes her laugh," a source close to her tells PEOPLE. "She definitely has him wrapped around her finger.

But they aren't engaged.

UsWeekly.com reported, "Theron's stunning accessory is an Anita Ko Leaf Ring in 18k yellow gold—but it didn't come from Penn, a second insider tells Us. In fact, the South African beauty, 38, treated herself to the $4,900 piece of jewelry."

So, I have to admit that I find this odd.

Charlene knows the press is watching her. She knows that everyone is speculating about Sean proposing. She also presumably knows about her friend talking to PEOPLE about their relationship.

Now, it isn't uncommon that Charlize would splurge on a nice piece of jewelry for herself. It's putting it on her ring finger that makes me wonder what her motives are. 

Is she really scraping the bottom of the barrel for PR moves? She's not known for doing this, but I can't understand why else she would.

The good thing about Charlize is that Sean is supposedly wrapped around her finger. But what about the woman who doesn't have the same dynamic with a man and wears a ring on her ring finger?

In short, she looks desperate. I see women do this all of the time. They wear a ring on their ring finger and it makes everyone start talking.

Yet, it's for all the wrong reasons. The woman looks as if she's dying for marriage to the point that she'll plant a ring on her finger -- even if not from a man!

Play it cool, ok? There are seven other fingers on which you can wear a ring (I don't count thumbs). Find a ring that fits one of those fingers and leave it at that.

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa

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A bold manifesto for the modern woman who wants to capture and keep the man of her dreams. It teaches you to use the power of texting--and not texting--to win his love and make him pursue you. It will convince you that playing hard-to-get is your best bet if you crave an exciting dating life and a committed relationship.

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Thursday, July 24, 2014

Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds Give Each Other Memorable Gifts -- How You Can Tell He's Crazy about Her!

Blake Lively, Ryan Reynolds
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We hear so little about Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds that I wanted to highlight this article because it's so sweet!

OK! Magazine reported "Gifting scenarios within couples are always interesting. Does he go for the bling and flowers combination? Does she buy him clothes? When it comes to Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds, handmade is definitely favored—and well-remembered! In a recent video where she answered 73 random questions in a row for Vogue, Blake revealed that Ryan gifted her the best present she’s ever received. Ryan once had a video made for her of everyone who has ever made an impact on her life. 

Blake confessed that the best gift she’s ever given to someone was to Ryan. The star said she once made him a collection of short stories written by their loved ones. We don’t know much about their relationship, but judging off these little facts, we know they’re adorable, incredibly thoughtful, and into heartfelt moments. The entire video wasn’t just a mash-up of Ryan/Blake questions though. The star spilled on juicy tidbits like her favorite dessert (chocolate soufflĂ©) and her kitchen, which Ryan nicknamed “the Blakery."

Awww...the Blakery! That is so cute!

Because hardly anything ever surfaces about Blake and Ryan, it's really nice that when we do hear something that it's so positive and sweet. I also love how meaningful their relationship seems.

You can tell, too, that he's crazy about her. That video had to take a lot of effort to make. Yet, he made it happen.

Men don't do that if they aren't just head over heels. The time a man puts into a gift can be worth its weight in gold.

Can't wait to hear more stories like this about the two of them!

Until next time...

Shine like Platinum!
Vanessa

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A bold manifesto for the modern woman who wants to capture and keep the man of her dreams. It teaches you to use the power of texting--and not texting--to win his love and make him pursue you. It will convince you that playing hard-to-get is your best bet if you crave an exciting dating life and a committed relationship.

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